Sometimes we find ourselves in situations or places that we’d rather not be. Most people will tell you that you grow through what you go through. Technically, that’s 100% accurate. But how do you manage the “going through” part?

Your energy is everything. You know that, I know that, even the people who are in your life to agitate you, know this. And sometimes they feed off your energy, like vampires. Ding ding, there’s that term, “energy vampires.” Certain people in your life will feed off the energy you give them. And any time you react or engage in their nonsense, you are sending your energy to them, helping them get stronger.

Your power is in THIS moment. Weird or uncomfortable situations will try to fool you into thinking you’ve got no power. That’s never, ever true. Because you have your self, your soul, your inner being. Your knowing. We often forget our knowing when we are emotionally and energetically battered. But that my love, is your super power – YOU HAVE AN INNER BEING THAT KNOWS…it’s all gonna be a’ight.

When this shit gets too big, and becomes all consuming, challenge yourself to pause. Hit the pause button, and B-R-E-A-T-H-E. That’s the fastest way to come right back to here and now. Become aware of your breathing, and focus on slow, methodical, deeeeep breaths. Envision magnets all over your body, and call all of your energy back to yourself. Feel your energy coming back to you, invite it back inside of your body – through your focus and your intent, you’ll pull back what is rightfully yours, and you’ll start to feel more like yourself.

If your focus is on how things “should be” rather than surrendering to what is, you can easily feel lost and powerless.

Surrendering to what is, which you know is temporary, allows you to stop the internal battle, the mind swirly that sends you spinning in circles. Allow what currently is…to just be. Things suck? Ok, that’s fair. They won’t suck forever. They suck right NOW.

How will you feel if you pivot just a few degrees? What happens when you shift your navigation system just the slightest bit to the left or the right? You don’t need to positive think your way out of any situation. That’s beautiful, but it’s not realistic.

Energy vampires rely on your mental clutter and confusion. That swirly circle of trying to make sense of nonsense – keeps you off your game, makes you feel crazy, and keeps you distracted…from your soul’s purpose. And why would you let that to happen? If it has happened, don’t beat yourself up. But it’s time to dig a bit deeper, center yourself, and come back home, to self.

You can’t control what or who happens around you – but you can mitigate the damage, you can accept you’re in a place you don’t want to be, but don’t forget…it’s not where you are staying. There’s a saying about sometimes when you feel buried, you’ve actually been planted. Could you hold on to that thought long enough to re-focus and put the drama in your rearview mirror? Maybe a bit?

What makes me the expert? I’m in the dirt, waiting for my time to bloom.  I’m often reminded of a lyric from one of my favorite songs – “if hope could grow from dirt like me, it can be done.”

It CAN be done. We WILL bloom. Let me know if you need help remembering your awesome, OK?